Therefore, you seem to think all men should feel the same way. But you are correct in proceeding with a sense of caution. Not because he listed himself as divorced but is really separated. He gave a lot to her during their time together, but, when it got right down to it, he really needed to sow his oats for awhile.But, most likely, because he’s still emotionally reeling from the death of his relationship. It’s not that he didn’t care about her; it’s that he wasn’t ready for another commitment so soon after declaring his bachelorhood….
Any advice would be wonderful- thanks in advance for your response!Dear Sara, We all make judgments based on our own experience.You had too much going on during your divorce to possibly consider dating. This same script, I’m reminded, played out in the life of one of my favorite clients who fell in love with a separated man.Attorney David Crum spent years as a “divorce assassin,” an attorney who wins for his clients at all costs, regardless of the consequences.In the world of divorce, these lawyers learn to utilize the court system to their advantage, how to delay or speed up a case, how to get the best performance from their clients, and how to get the best results.
Despite the harm they might cause to families, the divorce assassin is often sought out by clients as the pinnacle of representation and David was at the very top of his game. When David takes on a client who, despite tremendous pain and betrayal in her relationship, seeks a better way to divorce, one that keeps her finances and family intact and healthy, David is forced to re-assess not only his own role in the legal system, but what it really means to be a divorce attorney…Currently, I am using online dating to meet new prospects, though I choose not to date anyone who is going through divorce.I am divorced and have been for two years and am of the opinion that there is too much other stuff going on in one’s life during a divorce to date, as well.Also, it seems that about 40% of the men who state they are divorced are actually still going through the process. That stated, I have come up to some heavy objection from both family and friends – hence I’m here.They have given many examples of relationships that began quickly after a separation/break-up, so I am beginning to wonder if I am selling myself short – being too rigid.As a dating coach/expert, what do you think of the idea of dating someone who is still in the process of divorce?