He now has a bruised butt while I have a missing toenail from catching his fall. FMLToday, I was playing a game with my family where we had to say the name of an actor/actress that started with a certain letter.
When I said mine, my dad grounded me because he knew it was a pornstar. FMLToday, my husband and I had our first prenatal appointment.
FMLToday, when I got home from work I was pretty "in the mood" so I put on some cute undies and a tank top and went to get my boyfriends attention, he was so into his new computer game all I got was a half smile and a pat on the head.
Fearing intimacy and avoiding closeness in relationships is the norm for about 17% of adults in Western cultures.
As many readers understand, it can be crazy-making and even infuriating to feel dismissed and shut down when you try to get close to someone you love. You might be mystified by accusations that you don’t care and are not there for your loved ones…when you feel that you do care for them and love them greatly.
If you are the avoidant person, you may feel equally confused by the unreasonable emotional demands and neurotic nature of the people you are in relationship with. The good and the bad news is that this pattern is totally normal…but this doesn’t mean that it feels good to be in a relationship with someone who detaches and deactivates their emotions when things get heated.
But it is important to understand that avoidance of intimacy does not necessarily mean someone doesn’t care. It is in large part a biological reaction that was ingrained in the structures of the central nervous system through certain parenting practices in childhood.
Referring back to my earlier description of attachment theory: all children have a natural need to remain close enough to their parents so that they can attain protection and comfort when frightened or distressed.How the parent responds in these instances has a major impact on the child’s developing personality (personality being defined as the way one characteristically perceives threats, thinks, feels, and behaves).Today, I thought I'd spice things up by kissing my husband on the lips and then working my way down.But about halfway, I got some of his chest hairs lodged in my throat and started gagging.To avoid ruining the mood, I kept going, silently gagging, until we finished. FMLToday, my husband and I were talking about how we missed our sexting from when we were dating, so later I took a bath and texted him while he was relaxing in bed. "I'm tired and hurry up I need to poop." FMLToday, while in the shower with my boyfriend, I tried to heat things up by washing his knob with my loofa.He couldn't stop laughing and eventually laughed so hard that he slipped and fell.