Unlike Japan, California is a true melting pot of cultures but since I had so little dating experience back home, I was nervous about getting into the dating scene in America.Mostly because I had no idea how the American dating culture worked.I was young and naïve so it was a little scary in the beginning and I soon discovered the dating process in America is quite different from the one in Japan.
When I first moved America to attend college, I was nervous about starting a life in a new country because I wasn’t sure how quickly I would be able to adapt to the new culture.Even though it had been my dream to live in America, I was very excited but nervous at the same time.Growing up in Japan my parents were really strict and so I didn’t get an opportunity to start going on dates until after I graduated from high school.I did have a Japanese boyfriend but I ended things with him to go to school in California.Unfortunately it doesn’t always work out as the boy wasn’t interested in me.
If you confess and she/he says yes, you two could be considered a couple.
In America, it really depends on the person but I have never experienced this type of initiation.
Among Japanese teenagers the most basic way of starting to date someone is by giving them a “kokuhaku” or love confession.
This sounds a bit creepy but it’s not so much telling someone you love them but rather the Japanese way of letting them know you like them and asking them out.
One thing that is very different in Japan is that it is not uncommon for a woman to ask a man out.
I have to confess that I had a crush on a boy in junior high and my friends forced me to do the kokuhaku ritual.