He'll say things like, "I care about your opinion on the place," or "When I move in, I'm sure it will need a woman's touch." This has trap written all over it.I had a guy do this to me the day after my birthday one year.
After dating someone for a while, we begin to think we have an understanding of what actions are those of a potential boyfriend, and which actions are those of a potential heartbreaker.For example, I know that I, and a few of my girlfriends, have been in the position of dating a guy for a few months, with no talk of being exclusive.But even when there's no talk of exclusivity, or in some cases, an explicit declaration from them about not wanting to be exclusive, we still chat with our friends over lunch about all the "signs" we got from them on our latest date.Before I was married, I experienced a lot of these signs from many unattainable men.Men that made me think if I just stuck it out, they would end up becoming my boyfriend. No matter how many signs I thought I saw on the highway to love, they always ended up being dead ends.
In all honestly, the best sign of interest anyone can ever give you is an honest declaration of their feelings for you.
Now, don't think I mean they should rent a billboard or learn how to play a musical instrument and sing you a song about how much they want to marry you.
I just mean a simple and direct, "I like you, and I want to be in a relationship with you." Obviously, it takes some people longer than others to open up and let someone in.
But if you've been dating for a while now and you haven't had that talk about exclusivity or where you stand, then don't put all of your stock into the "signs." While I myself have not experienced this, a few of my friends have.
Being invited camping, skiing or anywhere where you can be treated like "one of the guys" might not necessarily turn out in your favor. You don't mean to sleep over, but it's getting late, or it's really cold outside or you just can't fathom taking the subway at this hour.
Especially when you're on a group trip with a bunch of people you don't know. The next thing you know, you wake up wearing his old NYU T-Shirt and he's frying eggs and brewing fresh coffee in his kitchen. Yes, it's sweet that he didn't send you packing the moment you woke up, but unless your eggs came with a side of commitment, don't read too much into this. Every now and then, a guy's lease will be up and he'll ask you to accompany him on his search for the perfect condo.