There are some myths out there that people assume to be gospel about dating.Christian culture is like any other in that we develop truisms that we accept without verifying.There are things floating around that have little or nothing to do with the Bible.
There are plenty of them, but let's focus on what I believe are the top five myths that make dating harder for Christian men.Myth #1: "God has one woman picked out for you to marry.You are destined to be with her, and God will guide you to her." Good luck finding this one in the Bible.There is plenty of stuff about God's will for his people, God wanting good things for you, and God's ultimate plan.Nowhere, however, does it say that God picked out a spunky brunette whom he's waiting to spring on you at the right moment. When it comes to God, I'm pretty careful about saying what he does or doesn't do.
But I do know this—if you rely on this idea too much, your dating life will get really confusing.Some Christians take a lot of comfort in the idea that God will do the heavy lifting when it comes to dating.God will tell them if a relationship is right, and God will end it if it's not.All they have to do is sit back and enjoy the ride.This may be the biggest excuse men use for being lazy in relationships, much less finding one.German theologian Dietrich Bonhoeffer addresses this issue in a wedding sermon he wrote for his sister from a Nazi jail cell.