Telephone chat and internet dating have become two of the most popular ways that singles use to connect with each other.
This Venn diagram theory goes for pretty much everything in life. And by ineffective, I mean that by not being able to understand (much less cater to) the opposite sex’s point of view, you’re pretty much eliminating your options.
Is it possible to find a woman who’ll have sex on Date 1? Is it possible to find a man who’ll wait until marriage before having sex? But there are a LOT fewer people who will agree to either.
I would suggest that both will find their stances largely ineffective in dealing with the majority of the population.
I’ve encountered very few men who have a problem with this.
Just like meeting rather than being picked up on the first date, it’s really no big deal.
IMO, after a few emails exchanged and one phone call, I know if the person is someone I’d like to meet.Two phone calls is too much unless I’m still uncertain about the man, as the in-person chemistry is so important, and can’t be gauged from phone calls and emails. Hey Evan, I have recently started chatting with someone on a dating site and he keeps asking me for my phone number. The place where your circles overlap is your relationship. The problem in dating is when you think your circle is the “right” one – even when it doesn’t overlap with anyone else’s circle. Women who ask men if they will commit on Date 1 are not “wrong”, but they are ineffective. You want to “chat with him for a good period of time,” and after “a few weeks of online chatter”, you’ll give him your phone number. However, I’m very uncomfortable giving you my phone number. It’s called the 2/2/2 Rule (two emails on the dating site, two emails off site, two phone calls and then a date).He says he doesn’t use the internet much on weekdays, but I’m reluctant to give anyone my phone number until I have chatted with them for a period of time. This is where I came up with the idea (espoused in Why He Disappeared) of “effective vs. Then, presuming a few phone calls go well, you want to meet him for a safe coffee date at on a Tuesday, so you can have a quick exit strategy if you don’t click. I spend about a half-hour explaining it in my Finding the One Online audio program, which helps women flirt and connect with quality men online.Am I being unfair with this expectation of not giving my phone number out and preferring to spend weeks on online chatter? If you’ve ever wondered why you struggle with men, it’s quite likely because you’ve never given much value to HIS circle in the Venn Diagram.I actually do like this gentleman, which is unusual for me. I figure this is as good a time as any to float a pretty non-controversial theory of how to be successful in dating. Okay, so you know what a Venn Diagram looks like, right? I always ask for the man’s phone number, and offer to call him.