I've been people-shopping recently, or what some folks call Online Dating, and I've managed to meet some really interesting people.After the initial introductory emails, when communication gets a little more relaxed, I tend to end messages with a list of questions (and then I judge their responses).
I'm, frankly speaking, an amazing cook, and I want to know what's she's bringing to the table (also helps me weed out the vegetarians, without having to ask; I'm fine with vegetarians, but it's like a religion, I prefer to know early). If she says "the water" she may be into surfing or kayaking or a similar sexy sport.
If she says "my vacation house in Bali" I know she's probably got money and spends time on exotic islands.
If she says "my job" I know that work is super important to her.
I’d like to help you out before that next big dinner or coffee by offering some creative first date questions you can use if you need to stir up conversation.
What’s the most embarrassing thing that happened to you in elementary school? If your house was on fire, what’s the first thing you’d grab to save?
When you were little, what did you dream of being when you grew up? What’s the luckiest thing that’s ever happened to you?First dates are exciting, but they can also be downright nerve-wracking. Asking a question in an email will increase your chance of hearing back from someone you have your eye on! No worries; you don’t need to remember all of them! You can also use one of these questions in your email correspondence. If there’s a lull in the conversation, insert a creative question or two and the conversation should begin to flow. These questions come from dating coach/matchmaker Rachel Greenwald’s, “Have Him at Hello: Confessions from 1,000 Guys About What Makes Them Fall in Love…or Never Call Back” (© Random House 2008).